/>

Monday, August 25, 2014

Ch-ch-changes


Judging from my Bloglovin' feed and my sometimes incompetent memory, it seems as though I'm not the only one among my peer group of bloggers who are experiencing what I'll assign as "the slump." What is this slump, you may ask? Well, I experienced said happening a few weeks back when I said I'd "be right back," and took a break from Parisian To Be. Among the bulk of the reasons why I felt uninspired about blogging was burnout. Before I whisked away to my ballet program, I was a blog-writing machine and planned a plenty of posts for your eyes to see while I was away. And, when the scheduled posts had run out, I felt completely uninspired to write new ones. I was nervous about taking a break. I value my readers so much, I always feel like I owe it to you to provide entertainment. But, then, it got me thinking about a revised philosophy concerning this blog. 

Somewhere over the past couple of years running PTB, I got caught in a dangerous cycle: preferring quantity to quality and getting wrapped up in the numbers. Addressing the former, I insisted on solidifying a blogging schedule (posting Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday), even if it meant that some of those posts were lacking in quality. I think I realized this whilst I was working in the moment, but (moving onto the latter), I read everywhere that the key to blog growth is to keep a solid blogging schedule. Then, the disconnect came; I was following this procedure, but not seeing as much growth as I anticipated considering the amount of time I was working. I've felt discouraged and have felt as though I need to prove something to my readers for the past year, and, while I want to churn out my best work, in retrospect, the views and general concrete statistics don't matter. 

Trust me when I say this isn't an epiphany that happened overnight, but while I was on said "break," it really hit me. That being said, I'm looking to change things up on here. (If you didn't read the preceding ramble to this point--I don't blame you--start paying attention now. This is the juicy stuff.) Parisian To Be will no longer be posting on a schedule. As much as it pains me to think that I'm letting you all down in some way, I need to remember that I blog not just to see my follower count rise or my analytics inflate, but because I blog for me. It sounds rather selfish, but I really think that blogging when suitable instead of when demanded will produce better content. And, last, I'm going to incorporate less beauty posts and more...other ramblings. While I still love beauty and everything about creams, pigments, and bristles, I feel like beauty blogging can be fake. Some people do it effortlessly, and their lead is why I was lured in the first place into the realm. But I recently realized that it's hard to blog about beauty and not sound vain, materialistic, and sometimes even ditzy. There's more to life than products and your countenance's aesthetic, and I want to share that front. Another thing about beauty blogging is that it seems like it's all about products. Again, some bloggers's philosophies are have mastered this demand and have created a niche on account. But it seems like an essential part to the beauty blogging game is keeping up with new releases. I don't have the funds to do that, nor do I want to, because, as Jen most recently pointed out, living life with excess is stressful (even if this excess includes stunning foundations). 

So I apologize for this rambley post, but I needed to have a small (okay...large) vent. I hope these words don't come back to haunt me or cause me to lose you. But I'm also looking forward excitedly to the future of Parisian To Be. Although I may not still be becoming Parisian,  I still always get a flutter when I walk into Sephora. I don't think that will ever change.

41 comments :

  1. THIS Is why I love you. Nodded along the whole way. I love PTB and I can't wait to see what you do next with this space, but you're totally right you've got to blog for you first as otherwise you'll just start to fall out of love with your space.


    I'm actually working on a piece for later this week about changing with your blog as it's something I've experienced recently and I feel so so much happier and excited about blogging now that I've started to shift away from writing about beauty. It stopped feeling comfortable for me to write about it 7 days a week - I never ever want to feel like I'm selling my readers something and now that my blog has changed a little I can now just incorporate beauty content when it feels natural to me instead of just churning it out like a machine.


    Anyway this big ramble was just to say you're awesome and I can't wait to see what's next for PTB <3

    ReplyDelete
  2. I completely agree with you on everything you just said. Funnily enough I have a post planned for tomorrow on being disconnected from blogging, as I am experiencing the same things as you are, I believe. So it might be nice for you to check out my post on it as well, if you fancy doing so. :)

    xx Babette

    Ps. I'm glad to have you back though. It's not the same without you in this strange little community. :)

    ReplyDelete
  3. Clementine ButtercupAugust 25, 2014 at 6:30 AM

    Lots of food for thought. I'm just starting out and feel it's really important for me to keep sight of why I want to blog. I want to practice my writing, so the stats shouldn't matter. It's hard to remember that though.
    www.clementinebuttercup.blogspot.co.uk

    ReplyDelete
  4. Yes! I completely agree with you. Especially on this: "Another thing about beauty blogging is that it seems like it's all about products." I've started to avoid blog posts with asterisks by product names. It's like I'm reading a commercial. Quality always trumps quantity. I look forward to reading future posts! x

    ReplyDelete
  5. Whilst I may not personally be a beauty blog, I've been reading them for the past 3 years and the shift has been exceptionally notable. Whilst I have only been reading PTB in the last 12 months, I've enjoyed every bit of it - but I can't lie, as a reader I am so excited to experience the 'yay' moment when I see a post pop up of yours rather than expecting it (which may sound crazy!). You can tell when someone cares about what they're writing, and it is always so much more enjoyable to read. I'm excited for this new direction, as what I've seen so far has been fantastic - a new direction and fresh start can only mean bigger, and better.


    xxxx
    Zoe | The Brit In Aus

    ReplyDelete
  6. I was actually going to tell you to write about whatever wlse that you may feel like, then I read the last part! Thats the way forward Lillian! I wouldn't want you to stop writing, because truth be told, I come back to your blog because you write so well and not because you write about beauty products! There still are people who care about content and quality over fancy new stuff lined up nicely. Your writing is your biggest forte and trust me a lot of people will still follow and adore you no matter what you write!


    I have been changing things up a lot too and do not want to be stuck in a stereotype or have a particular kind of readership. That would be suicidal because obviously I cannot keep up with everything new out there nor does it excite me as much as the other person!


    Coming to schedules I don't think they should matter so much should they? So long as you give ample time to each post for all your readers to have read (atleast majority) it shouldn't matter!


    Really excited to see what you do next! :-)

    ReplyDelete
  7. I respect you so so much for doing this. It is great when something is not working, to be able to stop and say hey, maybe this is not good for you or me, let's try something else. We've all been there. Looking forward to seeing what you've been up to...

    ReplyDelete
  8. A break in needed every now and then, don't worry about not posting on schedule, I'm sure we're all still going to be just as excited seeing you appear on our feed ;)

    Sophia | sophiebysophia.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  9. giiiirl, you can write what you want WHEN you want <3

    ReplyDelete
  10. Hey, Lillian! It's good to hear from you again. I myself just started a blog, so I understand how difficult it is to maintain a schedule that makes you happy. I can't wait to see more from you, and I can tell that PtB is heading in an exciting direction!

    ReplyDelete
  11. Hi, I don't care about the products, I like your blog because of you :) So I'm very excited to see the changes. Be sure you're on the right way if do not blog for the numbers.

    ReplyDelete
  12. I love, love, loved this post... And it is so great to see you pop up on my BL feed. Great food for thought as always, I would love to hear how your new approach is suiting you at some point!

    http://byhermirror.blogspot.co.uk

    ReplyDelete
  13. Oh my gosh, Jen! I swear: you're far too kind. I think I could fly if I continued to listen to your advice. Like I always say, I have some amazing inspiration to look at everyday (ahemjennypurrmmmm) to guide me. Lots of love!

    ReplyDelete
  14. You know I'll check out your post, Babette! I love what you're doing over there. (: x

    ReplyDelete
  15. That's so true! That's such a smart correlation to make, and I'll always keep it in the back of my mind. x

    ReplyDelete
  16. Thanks so much, Melissa! I do think that PR samples have their place, but when bloggers use them and only them to drive their content (not even including products they purchase themselves) it's hard not to think that it's fake. x

    ReplyDelete
  17. Wow, Zoe--that's so kind of you. I never thought of having non-scheduled posts as a "surprise," but I guess you're kind of right. x

    ReplyDelete
  18. Ah, thanks so much, as always, Divya! Your kind words always give me a push in a positive direction. Honestly, I'm blushing right now. I'd rather have two amazing readers like you than 1,000 who take what I do for granted and just come back for products. Lots of love your way! x

    ReplyDelete
  19. Aw, thanks, Maria! I'm lucky to have such amazing support...like you. (: x

    ReplyDelete
  20. Andrea, I can't thank you enough for these kind words. (: x

    ReplyDelete
  21. Oh Lillian, this post is kinda spot on and so relatable. I've been feeling what you've just typed for a little while now and not sure whether I was still enjoying it or not.

    I've certainly got my moments when I've got my 'groove' back and get so inspired photography and content wise, but sometimes I just sit there thinking and everything I type is followed by the dreaded 'backspace'. I'm on a little break as well and as I'll be doing a postgrad programme, I'll see what England will bring me. I still enjoy writing, photography and of course I adore beauty, but I've got lots of reflecting to do...

    find me on 9outoften.com

    ReplyDelete
  22. Pia SkjaeråsenAugust 27, 2014 at 4:43 AM

    I am pleased to see your break has ended. I have been reading Parisian To Be a few months shy of a year now.
    Writing is truly your forte, and I adore reading all the words you string together into stunning sentences. The approached you take to beauty is flawless and I dream others would follow.

    I am existed to see what the future has to bring with your blog, and I will without a doubt be staying a Lillian reader. Xxx

    ReplyDelete
  23. Aww, such an honest post, really glad to see you're keeping your integrity in your blog. I think your blog should just be a representation of yourself and it's so important to post what you want.
    Love to see posts like this as it makes you realise that everyone in the blogging world goes through the same ups and downs. Lovely to see you're back to blogging though and I'm excited to see the new direction your blog goes to.

    ReplyDelete
  24. It's brilliant to see you be so honest. I think your reasoning is great. Of course you should blog when you feel inspired! I certainly don't mind when a blog doesn't have a schedule, and I actually prefer fewer, more genuine posts over a lot of rushed posts and lots of product placing. Just do what feels right to you! I'm really looking forward to seeing your blog develop :)

    xx Mimmi, Muted Mornings

    ReplyDelete
  25. Ahw thanks Lil :')


    xx

    ReplyDelete
  26. Blogging really should be about your desire to blog. Not about followers or readers. It's an honest and very humane post and I loved it!


    evelinkivi.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  27. I know how you feel, Weng. Of course, if you ever need someone to bounce ideas off of, or just chat in general, I'm always here. I'd love to hear about your postgrad program in England; that's amazing! x

    ReplyDelete
  28. Aw, Pia! I don't think I've ever read such kind words; thank you so much. x

    ReplyDelete
  29. Thanks, Katie! I hope you enjoy what's to come. x

    ReplyDelete
  30. Thanks, Mimmi! I hope you stick around these parts, as what I've done thus far has gathered amazing people like you, and I hope not to lose you even if what you come here for changes. x

    ReplyDelete
  31. I totally know what you mean. I'm in the midst of creeping into a slump, because my scheduled posts are running out and I feel totally uninspired to write new ones. I can only describe it as "not in the mood" because I produce rubbish content when I'm really not feeling it. I'm loving your little space over here and am excited to see where you go from here! x

    Sheri | Behind The Frames

    ReplyDelete
  32. Be selfish: your blog should be for you. Write when you want to and make sure you enjoy it.

    http://lizziedailyblog.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  33. You're sweet, and same here: you know where to find me ;-). I'm trying to sort my things (and thoughts) at the moment and just realised yesterday that I've got less than 2 weeks left, which freaks me out... Big time. Will definitely keep you posted on England! xx

    ReplyDelete

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...